Your words hold a lot of power, and believe it or not, this is one of the most valuable lessons when it comes to good parenting. More often than not, we don’t even realize how what we say has such a profound effect on our kid’s minds, and words, when used in the right way, can literally shape your little one’s personality for the better.
So that’s exactly what we’ve got here for you- of the many things that you could say to your kid, here are some of the most magical ones. Read on…
Kids tend to take failures harder than we adults do sometimes, and if your little one is feeling defeated, tell him it’s going to be okay, and encourage him to give it his best shot, but if he still doesn’t succeed, it is not the end of the world. If your kid is hurt by a situation that didn’t turn out to be in the best way for him, tell him not to take things to heart so much, and encourage him to let it go!
I Love You
Don’t limit yourself to using these 3 beautiful words just for your partner. Growing children need a lot of love, and yes, you as a parent, need to be vocal about it too. You’ll be surprised to see the amazing transformation your kid will have once you start saying “I love you” to him more often. And don’t just stick to being vocal- your actions should show him that you love him too. Cuddle, kiss and be affectionate with your kid- it is a great way to bond with him.
Keep it Up
There’s nothing that motivates anyone better than some appreciation. If your kid is actually doing a lot to please you, or struggling with something but still keeps going, or simply accomplishes something little or big, don’t forget to shower him with all the appreciation- it’ll only encourage him to do better. Use phrases that make your child feel supported.
For every little progress that he makes, offer encouragement and motivation to do better, and sneak in rewards whenever you feel necessary.
Most parents make this fatal mistake of never owning up to their mistakes, fearing that it may have a negative impact on their kids. Remember that you’re a human, and you too, are bound to make mistakes, especially when it comes to parenting. So if your gut tells you you’ve been too hard on your kid for a little mistake, or yelled at him because you were pissed at something else, don’t forget to own up to your mistake and say “I’m sorry.”
Fearlessness is one of the best qualities you can inculcate in your child, and whenever you can see him feeling down and de-motivated, keep him going by encouraging him and pushing him (in a healthy way of course). Teach your little one to be brave and take the leap of faith, and encourage him to fall, but never let his failures defeat his spirit to achieve his goals.